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<\/p>\nI know, I know. You\u2019re thinking, \u201cWhy would I want to sabotage my mentor?\u201d This post is going to be #realtalk. I\u2019m calling myself out. I\u2019ve done all this. And thank you, Jesus, I\u2019m not going to sabotage my mentor anymore! Keep reading to see if you\u2019re sabotaging your mentor! <\/p>\n
Delay in finding a mentor Maybe you\u2019re one of the lucky few that instinctively understood the value of a mentor. You always sought out someone to show you the way. Or mentors have always just shown up for you and guided you along the right path. Don\u2019t believe your mentor<\/strong> If you don\u2019t agree with your mentor, or you have moral objections with what your mentor says, then just leave. You and that mentor were not matched in mentor-heaven. Just cut your losses and get out. Staying in that relationship will wear you out and wear out your mentor and may derail others in their progress. But if you are going to stay, be humble enough to learn from someone else, and maybe figure out what you were doing wrong that kept you a failure, and what made your mentor a success.<\/p>\n Only SAY you believe your mentor<\/strong> When you\u2019re in your mentoring program, and you sit through all the videos and read the required whatever, but you stop there, you\u2019re only giving mental assent to your mentor and his methods. You\u2019re only SAYING that you believe your mentor. You have to go all-in, you have to do the hard work, you have to do the heavy lifting, you have to come back day after day after day. You actually have to WORK the process that he\u2019s teaching you. So don\u2019t just say you believe your mentor, actually put his methods to the test and do the work!<\/p>\n Try to outthink your mentor<\/strong> Don\u2019t think to yourself: \u201cWell, (I don\u2019t have as much experience, but\u2026) I think software GHI can do just as well as XYZ, and my cousin Bob (who is less successful than me) can get it for me at a discount from ABCME company. \u00a0And then I can figure out my own way of accomplishing 123\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n Come on now. You were smart enough to find yourself this mentor. And you were lucky enough that he actually took you under his wing. \u00a0It\u2019s time to humble yourself and just DO the thing your mentor is asking you to do. You are learning HIS system, his way, his years of experience, distilled down into this one process. Just follow along and do it HIS WAY.<\/p>\n Let the rebellion continue to foment<\/strong> Well, actually, you did. That\u2019s exactly what you signed up for. You signed up for your mentor to take you through the minefield of whatever thing you wanted to accomplish, and now you\u2019ve come up against a challenge that (now, be honest) scares you.<\/p>\n Maybe you want to lose 20 pounds and got yourself a coach. You start walking three times a week, drinking more water, eating a little salad with each meal. But now, your coach says NO BREAD FOR 4 WEEKS!!!! And your brain, your body, your hormones, every fiber of your being \u2013 are all screaming in fear and rage and resistance! \u201cNO, I WON\u2019T GIVE UP BREAD!!!!\u201d<\/p>\n #realtalk again. This whole post is about me, but this is my current hurdle, and it\u2019s hard.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s think logically. Maybe this challenge your facing is the exact thing that\u2019s been the hindrance from you moving forward to achieving your goal. Maybe this thing that you\u2019re so afraid to do, where you want to throw in the towel, this thing is the key for you to keep moving forward. And you\u2019ve got a mentor now, and he\u2019ll help you through, and once you get through this challenge, he\u2019ll be on the other side to help you with the next step.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t dig in your heels and refuse to move past the thing that is scaring you. It could be writing a blog post. It could be sharing it on your Facebook. It could be letting people in your life know that you\u2019re trying another way to make money online. Maybe it\u2019s whipping out your phone and doing a little live video.<\/p>\n So, say it with me, \u201cI will trust my mentor. I will trust the process. I will push past my fear.\u201d<\/p>\n Conclusion<\/strong> This is a guest post from Kris Lee, if you would like to be considered for a guest post please contact me.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I know, I know. You\u2019re thinking, \u201cWhy would I want to sabotage my mentor?\u201d This post is going to be #realtalk. I\u2019m calling myself out. I\u2019ve done all this. 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\n<\/strong>You know everyone tells you to find a mentor. You\u2019ve read all the high-powered CEO turned authors write about all that they\u2019ve learned from their mentors. Why do all these successful people talk about mentors? Because they understand the power of having a guide to model themselves after. They\u2019ve experienced the frustration of trying to figure out their own way. They really mean it when they say \u201cdon\u2019t try to re-invent the wheel\u201d because they tried, spent a lot of money, had a lot of frustration, maybe even sacrificed some relationships, and STILL FAILED.<\/p>\n
\nNot me! I guess my rebelliousness and anti-authoritarian streak were blocking the universe from sending me mentors. You know, \u201cwhen the student is ready, the teacher will come\u201d? That thing? \u00a0So get yourself ready, and go ahead and find yourself a mentor!!<\/p>\n
\nHave you been in those groups where there\u2019s that one or two voices, they\u2019re ALWAYS COMPLAINING that this isn\u2019t right, or the leader is making a mistake, or they would do it another way, or they\u2019re so upset they have to CALL IT LIKE IT IS. Their comments: \u201cOh, the mentor is wrong.\u201d, \u201cThat marketing technique is so 1990!\u201d They are always mocking and tearing down and undermining whoever the leader is. Have you seen those people? Be honest now: are you one of those people??<\/p>\n
\nI love reading. I love hearing people talk about how they overcame their tragedy or crisis and made something amazing come out of their hardship. \u00a0It\u2019s like all the sports movies that have the 3-minute training montage \u2013 Rocky or the Jamaican bobsled team or Luke Skywalker \u2013 they\u2019re sweating it out in the gym, under the burning sun, lifting heavy weights, running, jumping, punching, lifting, running, jumping, puking, sweating, lifting \u2013 you know, that whole 3 minutes. \u00a0The reality is they do that for hours every day! Day in, day out, hours and hours, no glamorous lighting, no artistic camera angles, no stylistic edits, or re-takes. It takes years of hard work to become a champion. But the movie is only 2 hours long and watching someone do reps for 1.5 hours is boring.<\/p>\n
\nHopefully, you picked a good mentor, and that mentor will be confident enough to be able to share what he\u2019s done and how he\u2019s succeeded, with you. He won\u2019t hold back. Your mentor is going to have a system for you to follow. \u00a0All the years of his experience, he is going to pour into \u2026 YOU! \u00a0So you better be ready to do. If he says, \u201cCall ABC company, get XYZ software, and do 123.\u201d, just do it!<\/p>\n
\nGood for you! You\u2019re well on your way in your mentoring program. You\u2019ve followed through with your training and gotten some preliminary groundwork established. But HOLD ON!! What\u2019s this? Your mentor is asking you to do something that makes you UNCOMFORTABLE? Is your mentor trying to PUSH YOU past your limits??? \u201cThis isn\u2019t what I signed up for!!\u201d<\/p>\n
\nI hope this post was helpful. As I said, this is my story, this is currently where I am. I\u2019m working with my mentor, and I\u2019ve been seeing how I am sabotaging myself. (I\u2019m not sabotaging him in all honesty \u2013 this is really only hurting me.) If you\u2019d like to read more about what I\u2019m learning \u2013 about affiliate marketing, making money online, creating my own digital products<\/a>, my own thinking, and growth \u2013 please join me on my blog at www.krisleebiz.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n